I’m so very passionate about community and support for foster and adoptive moms.
Because eight years ago, right around this time of year, I was heart broken and disillusioned after our girl Z left us. I was ready to quit. Our agency set up a coffee date with another foster family since we didn’t know a single other family who fostered. That meeting, with my now very dear friend Kris and her family, changed the trajectory of our foster journey….our now adopted son joined us about two months later and his sisters eight months after that. And 20+ children have come through our home since then.
We CANNOT UNDERESTIMATE the incredible life-giving value of support or the horrific impact that a lack of support can bring. Community can literally change the trajectory of a family.
Dear foster mama, please find support. Do whatever you have to do to make it happen. Reach out. Make the phone call. Ask your agency to “set you up” with a mentor family. Send me a DM. Please. It’s that important.

This is also why I’m so passionate about leading the Indianapolis Foster the Family Support Group (on Instagram: @fosterthefamilyindy). Every foster and adoptive mom should have access to a community who gets her and provides a safe space for questions and fears and tears and celebrations. If you’re local, come join us! Or check out one of our other support groups nationwide.
Don’t wait to burn out or give up. Find your community.
